ULTIMATE SEXUAL FULFILLMENT BY JIMMY EVANS.

Sex is a vital part of a healthy, fulfilling marriage. To create an atmosphere where you and your spouse can discover ultimate fulfilment, you need to include these essential ingredients.

COMMIT TOWARDS MEETING YOUR SPOUSE'S NEEDS: According to 1Cor  7, our bodies belong to each other when we get married. God created marriage to be a place of pleasure and delight – centred around your spouse! This isn’t a license for abuse, but it’s a license for use. What this means is that the two of you will be faithful to meet each other’s sexual needs for the rest of your lives.

COMMUNICATE EACH OTHER'S NEEDS: This means you’re open about your sexual needs while encouraging your spouse to communicate about theirs. Over years of counselling, I’ve found that many couples never talk about their sexual needs. Don’t be ashamed to ask _AND_ answer questions. When couples refuse to communicate, they fall into unhealthy patterns. One spouse may withhold sex because of a certain aspect of it – finding withdrawing easier than talking. But like many marriage problems, this can be avoided with honest communication.

COMMIT TO SEXUAL PURITY: Protecting the integrity of your marriage is a huge deal. It means taking your thoughts captive and not allowing lust or fantasy for another person to enter your mind. These things, like pornography and temptation, are cantered in your thoughts. Take control of your thoughts by replacing impure thoughts with better thoughts, like verses of Scripture.

Another aspect of sexual purity is a refusal to develop inappropriate emotional or sexual relationships with anyone outside your marriage, regardless of the condition of your marriage.

Be very careful with Facebook or other social media accounts that make it easy to hide extramarital communication. I recommend spouses have the passwords to each other’s computer, phone, and online accounts. If you are hiding these things from each other, something is already wrong with your relationship.

COMMUNICATE YOUR SEXUAL PROBLEMS: It’s also crucial to talk through conflicts related to sex. And more couples have sexual problems than you might think. In many marriages, one spouse may simply have a lack of desire; maybe because of stress, fatigue, past abuse, or unresolved conflicts. Not talking about your reason for sexual disinterest can cause more conflict way outside of the bedroom for your marriage. 

TALK TO EACH OTHER: Get help if it becomes necessary. Talk to a doctor or counsellor. Whatever the problem, you need to deal with it aggressively because it impacts your marriage.

God created marriage, and sex is a gift He gave to married couples. He wants you to enjoy that gift. He wants your marriage to be sexually fulfilling – and that wonderful result can happen once you commit and communicate.

BLESSINGS

JIMMY EVANS.