MOTHER OR HUSBAND- BY AWESU JAMIU

_Caution: This exposition is out of any ethics from social-cultural and religion reflection_

Recently, this question "who do you (will you) love most between your mom or your hubby? Is thrown out to many gentlemen and ladies, and I found out that there are different ratios of percentage to show the answer, 20% of them said "oh, I can't just say, the love is balance, like I'll love then equally, 30% of them said, "if that is the case, I'll love by hubby of cause, while the remaining large 50% said, "of cause it's my mom, no body can take her position in my heart whatsoever. I tried evaluating this position of everybody by naturally looking into the reasons why these answers were different and not just only one. I therefore decided to make these differences out and give the readers to check if this is right.

However, this exposition is base on a fair case of having the best mom and the best hubby since this choice is different, where some might have the best mom and not the best hubby and the best hubby not the best mom as the case may be, and whosoever is battling with this, of cause is right to make his or her decision base on the above phenomenon.

MY MOTHER

Naturally, the starting of man's life begins with this precious gift from God, if she wasn't there, who am I to have a hubby, she has been the greatest of mankind I would ever have, she knows everything about me, just mention. Let's take it from when I was still inside her, how can you even speak of comparing your love to someone who carried you for nine months in her tommy without complaining, during spring, summer, Autumn and Winter, I could only felt safety while I know nothing about her living. The day I was given birth to, I made her cried, made her lose weight and cause her pains, yet she laughed and smiled at my crying face when the doctor announced my birth, who could bare that?, I took her breast for more than a year, amidst this year, I sometimes bite her nipples, I hurt her, she felt the pain buh would only smile and continues feeding me. sometimes i made her angry because I knew nothing, I pee, vomits and pass out defecation on her yet the natural love is still there, so what are you telling me. Apart from all these she's always there to take my side on whoever tries to bully me, even when I am at fault. I remembered when I started school, the love I had for her made me crying whenever she comes to drop me, she knows that, buh the believe that, that's what I needed currently and she can't be there always for me but will eventually gets my back comes with "my baby, don't worry I'll come back to pick you up" she helps with assignment, I can say not just teacher made me  educated right from the beginning, my mother did, because the best attention of mine was given to her because I can only love her more at that stage, Imagine I tried to piss her off by tearing my assignment books with over erasing of just a letter, cutting of my pencils head, losing writing materials and all.. yet all she would say is "I'll get you another one so don't worry" like she is just my everything. 

She fed me, she clothed me, she knew my hobbies, what I like and love most. She knows when and what makes me angry, and held the antidotes for each. So what care is greater than these that can make you compare her love?

Seriously, this is right to say about mom, but this life just has two stages, the beginning and the end, you started the beginning of your life with your mom, so during that time, she only deserves to be loved, if possible till death, however, along the line of your life, you met another stranger, you realize you started giving him love and everything then the loves becomes two, mind you, you only have to love one (Utmost), so who will that be?

MY HUBBY

The day I met this young man was always a dream that's not ending, he appears to be what have been expecting since my puberty signaled green light, I believe he is the one mom was talking about. I remembered when we started our love, I have been the priority for him, he looks out and make sure am safe, just like how mom does. Since I moved to his house, my death and life have been with him because I lay gently and lifeless beside him, I take my meals everytime in his house, if am sick he knows first, my pains and everything has turned to be his responsibilities (adding to his'). I give him babies, he makes me feel happy whenever he is around, I don't just want anybody else just him alone. He has been both fatherly and motherly to me, he is not just my hubby, he is my life partner, so who else will I love if not him after doing all what pleases me and makes me safe?

Sincerely, your hubby happens to be the second stage of your life where you'll end your life with, he started from where your mom stopped and never relaxed or complained.

If not for time and pages, there are more to this huddles of love sharing.

To conclude this, your mom was your first love and your hubby happens to be your second love no matter how you care to make the scene, you'll say my mum has been there whenever I wasn't while my hubby is still there whenever I am not.

Don't forget that in situations where by comparison is the only choice, present always takes the upper hands over the past, because case at hand is far different from cases over hands, sacrifices are meant to make in hardships just to make peace reign and let things go off the shore.

So, your mom and hubby are in critical situation that needs your urgent attention at the same time and you only have to attend to one, who will that be?

AWESU JAMIU OLUWADAMILARE (ABU QUANIT)